If you are tasked with writing a eulogy for a friend or loved one and have no idea how to begin, follow this general outline. If your purpose is to reflect upon the overall life of the person, then think about presenting the information chronologically as this outline does. Details about the person's character can be dispersed throughout the speech and memorable stories can be placed wherever you deem appropriate for maintaining a proper flow of the narrative. The following outline is simply meant to help you understand the type of information that generally goes into a eulogy.
INTRODUCTION
Introduce yourself and identify your relationship with the deceased.
Thank everyone for attending the service. If you are a friend, offer condolences to the family of the deceased.
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EARLY YEARS
Date and location of birth
Location (town/city) where the deceased grew up
Description of family, childhood experiences, pastimes, etc.
Education (high school, college)
Employment, active military service, etc.
Recall a memorable story that happened during this time.
MIDDLE YEARS
Marriage, children, etc.
Identify struggles and triumphs along the way.
Recall a memorable story that happened during this time.
LATER YEARS
Grandchildren, retirement, volunteerism, activities, etc.
Recall a memorable story that happened during this time.
CHARACTER
Identify special qualities or characteristics. Provide specific examples if possible.
Special goals/ambitions, personal achievements, talents, hobbies, passions, etc.
If religious, give an example of his/her faith. Favorite Scripture, psalm, etc.
LEGACY
Identify what you have learned from the person. How has he/she helped/impacted you or others?
Think about the overall legacy the person is leaving behind. For what would you like him/her to be remembered? Maybe it's his/her compassion for others, generosity, perseverance, or accomplishments. Maybe it's his/her sense of humor or talent for making people smile.
CONCLUSION
End by expressing how much he/she will be missed by you and others and how grateful you are for having known him/her.
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