Writing a eulogy can be daunting. Many people go their entire life, never being asked to deliver a eulogy. If you are presented with such a task, however, this article will help you get the job done. Keep in mind that being asked to reflect upon someone's life and pay tribute is a beautiful and honorable thing. Make the most of it by following these helpful tips.
How to Write a Eulogy
Gather personal details about the individual you're honoring.
You may have to consult with a close family member if you need to fill in the gaps. It's important that you present this information in chronological order, beginning with the place and date of birth, so that the narrative is easy to follow. Don't forget to use transition words or phrases when moving from one event to the next. This will provide further clarity overall.
Here are some things to include:
The basics: Identify when and where the person was born, where he/she went to school, and details about the person's profession and family life.
Struggles and triumphs along life's journey. Don't hesitate to be honest about even the darkest moments in the person's life. Consider that no one is immune to struggles. This is an opportunity to connect with the audience and make this person relatable. At the same time, this is an opportunity to let their successes shine!
Special qualities or characteristics with specific examples if you can.
Goals/ambitions, personal achievements, talents, hobbies, and passions. If you feel there are too many to list, stick to the most memorable ones.
If religious, give an example of his/her faith. Identify a favorite Scripture or Psalm.
Think about the times you shared with the person that were especially memorable to you.
These could be moments that were touching or funny. Whichever the case, they should be instances that reveal something about the person's character.
Consider what you and others have learned from this person's life. Reflect upon how he/she had helped or impacted your life or the lives of others.
Finally, think about the overall legacy this person is leaving behind. For what would you like him/her to be remembered? This is your final moment to leave something for your audience to remember.
How to Deliver a Eulogy
Write out your entire speech
Make sure the font is large enough for you to see clearly. If necessary, double space the manuscript. Highlight areas where you would like to provide eye contact.
Practice, practice, practice!
Practice reading the speech as much as you can, focusing on the following:
Don't rush it!
Though your nerves might urge you to get it over with, you'll regret it in the end. A speedy reader only makes it a struggle for listeners to understand. You put way too much effort into this to make that happen! Concentrate on slowing down and savoring the moment. To avoid rushing through it, be sure to pause:
at punctuation marks (commas and periods are there for a reason!)
after a poignant moment in the speech (let it sit with the audience before moving on)
Ask a friend!
Ask someone to critique your delivery as you practice. The more feedback, the better the presentation will be. In the end, you will be much more confident and at ease as you present your speech.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long should a eulogy be?
Keep it within 2 to 2 1/2 pages in length (single spaced).
How long will it take to speak the eulogy?
2 pages should take about 10 minutes if read at an adequate pace.
Who do I ask to deliver the eulogy?
Ask a family member or close friend to deliver the eulogy. It should be someone who knew the deceased very well.
What if I can't write the eulogy myself?
Don't hesitate to reach out for help. You're not alone! Very capable people reach out to a professional eulogy writer simply because:
they can't fit it into the Funeral Planning to Do List
they've never had to write a speech.
they're too emotional to concentrate on such a task.
If you're struggling to put into worlds all that your friend or loved one meant to you, a professional eulogy writer can help ease the burden and produce something you'll be proud to read. In Tribute Eulogy Services is a reliable and easy option to personalize the perfect eulogy.
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